Love is a verb.

Okay, technically it can be a noun or a verb, but I prefer to think of love as an action word.

Let’s talk about love. It's arguably the most powerful emotion on the planet. I say it's that which makes the world go around. Love is the emotional component necessary for babies to thrive. We need love!

When I was a child, my friends and I would pick dandelions, for the sole purpose of pulling off their petals individually, as we professed his love for us. He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me. How many of you played the game? 

Let’s admit it: We all want to be somebody’s, somebody.

February in particular, is the month that the desire may be amplified, as millions of people demonstrate their affection by giving flowers, confections and other gifts for Valentine's Day. Flowers – check. Chocolates – check. Dinner reservations – check. Fine-wine – check. Every February 14, expect unusually crowded restaurants and sold out expensive bottles of wine.

Yet, if we add another something Valentine’s Day is responsible for, I’d like to give it kudos for helping many people realize love is a verb. Love is not only something we feel, it is also something we do.

Even though this romantic holiday emphasizes the superficiality of love, it also drives us to take action. Being in love prompts us to do for, and give to, that special someone in our lives. Valentine’s Day is an occasion that ignites the romantic fire in us.

Outside of Valentine's Day, it appears that when we are in the midst of love, there is nothing we will not do for our woman or our man. We would give them the world. Being new in love encourages us to express our good feelings on a regular basis. We are seeing our world through rose colored glasses. Food tastes better, when we have an appetite, and everything is all right.

Yet, once love begins to decline — as it tends to do — we must do things to keep the love alive. Love is a gift that not everyone is privileged to share, especially not every year. If you are in a loving relationship, do what’s necessary to keep it. When we become very familiar with our partners, we either, take them for granted or take action to enhance our good feeling.

Demonstrating our love makes both parties feel significant. Think of how you feel when your partner does something for you. It could be something as simple as making you a cup of coffee, preparing a meal for you or making your favorite dessert.

Love is a powerful, beautiful emotion, and if we are fortunate enough to have it in our lives, we get to exhibit our love in many ways that make us feel wonderful and joy-filled. The receiver of our kind words and gestures also gets another opportunity to feel special and loved. So if you are in a loving relationship, you are one of the fortunate ones. Love is far more than something we simply feel we’ve got to show how much we love our partner. Think of love as a verb.

Dr. Lateefah Wielenga works as a life and relationship coach and is also an ordained minister. She has a private practice in Long Beach. Call 895-0516 or visit for details.

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